Everyday Girl Guide to: Happiness (Spiritual Assessment)

May 6, 2014

Maybe I was avoiding this one.  I know my spiritual assessment is not going to be good.  I have been slipping steadily for the last six years (you make one wrong choice and it can take a lot to get back to making the right choices).

Still, if you’re not growing, you’re going backwards, and I want to grow.

The UCR Wellness Center lists several things for checking your spiritual health.  Even if you don’t think you’re religious, you still have a spiritual side, so this is for everyone:

  • Do I make time for relaxation in my day?  I am actually much better at this than I used to be.  I used to be so OCD that if I wasn’t doing something (or multiple things), I got twitchy.  Now I’ve improved immensely.
  • Do I make time for meditation or prayer?  Ouch.  For some people, this is straight-out prayer or ohm or whatever.  For some it is journaling (including some amazing prayer warriors).  It’s a matter of getting it all out on the table, inspecting it, and dealing with it.  I don’t do this.  Well, now that I’m blogging again, this is a little bit of that, but I worry about what you all think on occasion.  I need to do more praying.
  • Do my values guide my decisions and actions?  They didn’t for a while.  I justified a lot of things with the word “fair” or “I deserve”.  If I really got what I deserve, you’d want to stand back a bit.
  • Am I accepting of the viewpoints of others?  Ooh, I’m actually much better at this, too.  I can’t change you.  I’ve started not even wanting to change others.  If you want your opinion, go for it.  I have mine; I know what I believe and why I believe it.  When people want to have a good, clean discussion about something and we have alternate viewpoints, I can get into the discussion without getting frustrated.

To me, there is a lot more to spiritual health than what is here, though.  Am I carrying around guilt?  Unforgiveness?  To me, those are more spiritual than social.

Here are my goals:

Short-Term (3 Months)

* Do the Beth Moore study Breaking Free (with workbook)

* Find a church

* Spend daily time (15 minutes/day) in prayer– try it as a journal so I focus better

Medium-Term (One Year)

* Join a church and attend regularly

* Re-read Know What You Believe and Know Why You Believe

* Schedule one true “rest day” per week and one true “rest weekend” per year

Long-Term (Five Years +)

* Put the guilty stuff to rest (it may take the whole five years)

* Get to the point of having a discussion without getting upset when someone else is unfair (yeah, another one that may take the whole five years)

* Be at peace with where I’m at spiritually (but still be growing!)


I haven’t had anyone share their goals yet.  If you’re following along, have you been making goals?  I’d love to see them in the comments.


4 Responses to “Everyday Girl Guide to: Happiness (Spiritual Assessment)”

  1. Alice Says:

    Yes My goal is from your “Emotional Inventory” post. You mentioned that your days consist of Facebook Work and time with your kids. I’ve opted to give up Facebook for a week. No post, No logging in. cold turkey. I am curious if anyone else can do this. Seems as if social media is more important than work or time with family.

    • EverydayGirl Says:

      Good point. I’m trying to get to where I have friends outside Facebook, but my friends are all over the world and I just moved (yet again). So I’m pretty sure I couldn’t do this right now without isolating myself. One of my goals is to get to that point, though, and I applaud your goal to try it. Let me know how it goes?

  2. Alice Says:

    So far it was gone very well. So much so that I am considering deleting my Facebook account. Well you see, I’ve become closer to my friends and family now. Instead of getting on facebook and looking at their pages, I can simply call them and talk, or text, or go to their house for a visit. I’ve already had two gatherings with friends and its been fabulous! Not to forget my family, I never realized until now how distant I’ve become with them. We are starting a weekly Sunday gathering, just family, church and a day of fun, as it should be.

    • EverydayGirl Says:

      My family doesn’t live super-far away, but they don’t live close, either. I try to get together with them once a week. I have no truly local friends, so visiting with friends is a bit of a luxury that I’m working into my budget. But I’m really glad to hear that it’s going well for you; it gives me hope that, with time, I can adjust to that as well.

      Keep me updated? I’d love to hear how it’s going.

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